Effects of the pandemic: how to deal with the hazards of children – Sade

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“Being united in those moments was fundamental. We tried to keep the balance”

Silmara and Luiz Gustavo Trindade, parents of Dastan and Rayan

Web designer Silmara Cardoso Trindade, 46, and administrator Luiz Gustavo Rabelo Trindade, 47, have seen their children express different feelings during the pandemic. The youngest Dastan, 9, and the eldest, Rayan, 16. What seemed fun at first, with the suspension of classes, ended up dragging on and the matter became serious.

Of her youngest son, Silmara says that his strong desire to interact and socialize with friends and cousins, and the impediment to doing so, were reasons for restlessness, sadness and anxiety. In the case of Rayan, who was always a happy boy, he ended up presenting an image of depression – mainly due to the fear of bad situations and the possibility of death of people close to him.

“We were scared. Rayan was very stressed, cried a lot and stopped eating. We sought help in online therapy,” says Silmara. The web designer also says she has difficulty positioning herself in front of her children confined to the family environment, and the need to help them with school activities at a distance, for example, was another reason for her exhaustion.

“We were tired, exhausted. In our conversations with both of them, we tried to show hope that everything would be fine. Being united in those moments was fundamental. We tried to maintain an emotional balance.” Now that everyone is vaccinated, Silmara talks about the difficulty of adapting again to everything that is starting to return to normal. “They are anxious, the children are no longer what they used to be,” he says.

What the family goes through is recurrent for many people. Prevented from attending school, deprived of socializing with friends, family members such as grandparents and cousins, and restricted to playing outside the home, children have been hit hard by the pandemic. Although an alternative is the digital universe, with its list of advantages, the estrangement from those you love and the usual activities have caused damage to the emotional and psychological health of the little ones. the alert launched by the couple of doctors Thanguy Frio and Patrcia Frio.

CHANGES

According to experts, it is important to be aware of any sudden or exaggerated changes in the child’s behavior, such as aggression, restlessness, restlessness or difficulty maintaining attention, school problems and the return of a certain stage of development. “This age group is more vulnerable to these changes that the pandemic has imposed, because it is in a clear phase of psychic maturation and physical and motor development,” they explain.

Thanguy and Patrcia say that, from the beginning of the spread of the coronavirus until today, they have received patients with emotional imbalances, in addition to many situations that arise from reports from parents and guardians on social media, asking advice on how they can help their children. “The most recurrent problems are anxiety, attention deficit at school and also depression, which increasingly affects young people.”

Difficulty verbalizing pain and insecurity

An important point to observe, according to the doctors, is if the children fall ill without the parents finding a biological or physical cause for this condition. This can happen, they explain, because children are often unable to verbalize their pain and insecurity.

Thus, behavioral or even physical symptoms may appear. That is to say, the body speaks for the child. “If your son or daughter shows signs such as headaches, fever or stomach aches, without a medical explanation, it is important to seek professional help,” they advise.

EXAMPLES

First, parents must remember that they are role models for their children. The child can experience a rollercoaster of emotions, with changes in attitude that can occur from moment to moment. But, as tempting as it may be, it is important that parents and mothers do not ride this wave, in the words of the professionals.

“Keep your feet on the ground, try to calm yourself down, and be ready to guide your child as they return to a calm state. It may be important to take a deep breath or even walk away when they start to snap at you. . . as long as they are out of control, I will be better able to talk about their life when the situation calms down,” they teach.

Another important issue is to encourage living the feelings. “Emotions, whether good or bad, are not bad and children should not be ashamed of them. And educators also have a central role in teaching children and adolescents about emotional control,” says Thanguy and Patrcia.

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